Episode #119: Building Relationships

Building Relationships with Dawn Smith

What if being a “misfit” was the key to your success?

Meet Dawn Smith, a career transition and relationship coach who has turned what many see as challenges—ADHD and non-conformity—into her greatest strengths. Dawn’s personal journey from feeling out of place to discovering her purpose as a mentor is a powerful reminder that embracing your quirks and authenticity can lead to the most meaningful connections.

Dawn offers practical communication strategies, including the concept of “spaghetti” vs. “waffle” thinking styles, to help partners better understand each other. She also challenges common relationship myths, such as the advice to “never go to bed angry,” and explores how collaboration, rather than compromise, can lead to mutual fulfillment.

Key Takeaways from Building Relationships with Dawn Smith

The Power of Embracing Your Uniqueness: 

Dawn shares her journey of always feeling like a “misfit” and how that sense of not fitting in eventually became a source of strength. She talks about how discovering her ADHD and processing differences helped her see the world through a unique lens, something she now embraces fully in her personal and professional life.

Creativity in Career Transitions:

Dawn discusses her varied career path, from nonprofit work in social justice to finding her calling in coaching. She shares how her creativity helped her transition from one career to another and how she helps clients build fulfilling careers by focusing on what truly excites and motivates them—rather than fitting into a traditional career mold.

Understanding Communication Styles: Spaghetti vs. Waffle Thinking:

A powerful conversation about how men and women process and communicate differently, based on neuroscience. Dawn explains the “spaghetti” and “waffle” thinking styles, helping listeners understand why communication issues arise between partners. By recognizing these differences, couples can engage more effectively and stop feeling misunderstood.

The Myth of Compromise:

Dawn challenges the traditional relationship advice of compromise, which often implies that both parties must give up what they truly want. Instead, she advocates for collaboration, where both partners work together to find solutions that align with both of their needs and desires, creating a more fulfilling and equitable relationship dynamic.

Collaboration Over Compromise:

Couples often feel siloed when each person sees things from their own perspective. Rather than compromising or giving in, the focus should be on brainstorming solutions together as a team, where both people can feel excited about the outcome.

Small Daily Rituals for Connection:

Implementing small daily rituals, like appreciating each other or checking in with your partner, can significantly strengthen the relationship. Even just a few minutes a day can help create a sense of teamwork, intimacy, and positivity.

Be Direct in Communication:

Partners should communicate directly rather than assuming the other person knows what they’re thinking or feeling. Clear, kind communication about what each person needs (like specific requests for affection or time together) helps avoid misunderstandings and builds stronger connections.

Small Actions Lead to Change:

Small, intentional actions, done consistently, lead to long-term positive changes in relationships. Shifting your mindset and building healthy habits, even if only for a few minutes a day, can make a significant difference over time.

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